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Triggers & Trauma in a Relationship

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Kait Warman & JJ Tomlin

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Today Kait & JJ are back with another mental health-related topic in honor of national mental health awareness month! Today, the share all about recognizing triggers in dating and overcoming trauma in a relationship.Our VIDEO PODCAST is HERE! Check it out at https://youtu.be/Dy5QVrm7i2M

Let’s talk about triggers:

  • Having a “trigger'' means having an emotional reaction to something that most likely originated from past traumatic events and situations.
  • When you’re triggered, it's not usually just a reaction to what is happening around you but it’s also a reaction to something that has happened in the past that is resurfacing.
  • A trigger does not necessarily mean acting out violently. They come in various forms. 
  • As you become healthy and aware of your triggers, you may not necessarily act on them.
  • When you’re activated & triggered, your nervous system is activated.
  • Trauma is existent in all of our lives to some extent.

How do you know when you or someone else is triggered?

  • When people are triggered, they usually vividly react in a way that’s out of line of what is happening.
  • Feeling triggered may be overwhelming and your heart may start racing.
  • You may feel a vary of emotions such as sadness and anger.
  • Overall, you just feel out of control and may even feel pain.

Common triggers.

  • Being rejected in some way, shape, or form.
  • Someone trying to leave you or even threatening to leave.
  • Feeling discounted or ignored or just feeling that someone is being unavailable to you.
  • Someone giving you a disapproving look or blaming or shaming you.
  • Receiving criticism or feeling judged.
  • When someone reacts in a way which makes you feel that they are not happy to see you.
  • Someone trying to control you.

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Kait Warman

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Kait Warman is a best-selling author, speaker, popular relationship coach, and the founder of Heart of Dating. She helps thousands of men and women on their journeys through the conversations on the Heart of Dating Podcast, which launched in 2018. 

Through her ministry, Kait’s mission is to empower both men and women to have the courage to own their story, walk in victory, thrive with purpose, and discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships. In her new book, Thank You for Rejecting Me: Transform Pain into Purpose and Learn to Fight for Yourself, Kait vulnerably shares how she grew through her deepest, darkest rejections and offers readers the tools to heal from the past, take back their power, and walk in strength, victory, and love into their future. Kait currently lives in the Los Angeles area and loves sunshine, walks, Jesus, and lip syncing to Celine Dion.

JJ Tomlin

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JJ Tomlin is a missionary kid born in Belgium, originally from Tennessee, and currently residing in the OC. He currently works in Gaming/E-Commerce, enjoys watching his Tennessee Titans on Sundays with his Goldendoodle Teddy and loves working with Christian men to raise the bar in singleness and dating.


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