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Feeling lost in the confusing world of dating as a Christian? Trade your confusion for biblical insight, practical resources, and a powerful community of singles to help transform your dating life!
I’ve had my fair share of unexpected heartbreaks, nightmarish first dates, and unexplained ghosting. Believe me, I’ve seen it all (and dated it all), and if you’re anything like I was, you’re probably fed up with advice from well meaning pastors who got married at 22 and have never actually had to swipe their way into an oblivion.
Here’s the deal, as a woman who dated for 18 years well into the modern age of dating apps and ghosting, I can confidently tell you: dating can get better. I went from loathing this process, to walking in my worth, feeling confident to make a move, and finally dating with joy and integrity. Eventually I met the RIGHT guy for me… JJ Tomlin! But not gonna lie, he was totally unexpected. When I met him he was a skater punk boy with blue hair living in Seattle and was 5.5 years younger than me. I never would have seen myself dating someone that much younger than me, BUT GOD had other plans! And guess what is even more unexpected? God brought our paths TOGETHER to now serve single Christian men and women in a fresh and new way. How GOOD is our God?
If you let us, we’d love to meet you where you are, love on you, challenge you a bit, but most importantly help you truly LOVE this time in your life.
(PS. I only have one rule: you have to be willing to talk about the hard stuff, k?)
I have definitely been on a journey of dating like a boy to dating like a man. I have been on both sides of the ghosting, left on read, broken up with and rejected so I FEEL you!
I definitely get the unspoken, complicated rules of the dating game. I understand the double-standard of being part of the male species who are criticized for leading too boldly, then again for not leading enough at all.
At the end of the day, the only way I believe we can effectively lead is by dying to ourselves and becoming the greatest servant-leaders. That is the true sign of man leading a relationship with wisdom, clarity and selflessness and what we at Heart of Dating challenge our men to strive for.
We’ve got the best binge-worthy episodes, powerful, nuanced conversations, and inspiring guests who’ll keep you coming back for more.
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Take our 2-minute quiz to uncover your unique dating personality—because clarity is key to connection. Whether you’re the Hopeless Romantic or the Overthinker, this quiz will help you better understand your patterns, strengths, and challenges… all through a faith-filled lens.
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In Thank You for Rejecting Me, we’ll have an honest conversation about turning pain into purpose and fighting for ourselves when unexpected rejections come flying our way.
Our next event location is to be announced but will likely happen February 2026! Get on our email list to be the FIRST to know more!
JJ has joined the team as a co-host and is specifically passionate about calling men higher. We've added a men’s episode each week that we call Men Minisodes to serve our men more. We have added two amazing ladies to the Heart of Dating team who get the podcast out to YOU! So much has happened and changed and we're SO SO SO grateful! We have to be real though, running a podcast isn't cheap.SO! We’d love to invite you to join our exclusive community!! As we continue to grow it would be our dream to continue bringing you MORE- more video content, more episodes, a MEN’S ONLY PODCAST, and more!
In this program we equip you to MASTER your dating life. Through our unique journeys, we feel deeply called to walk alongside other singles to help them completely reconstruct their dating mindset, tool kit and experience from start to finish.
We have developed a 3-pronged pivot approach to dating that leads to REAL results. In this program you will leave with emboldened confidence, practical dating tools and a true transformation in the way you date.
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In this 6‑week foundational course, Kait and JJ strip away the guesswork—who to pursue, where to meet them, how to bring emotional & spiritual maturity to every step. Honest teaching, practical tools, and truth‑telling community—all grounded in Scripture and real life.
Our Heart of Dating Christian Singles Community FB group is specifically for single Christians 18+ who want to meet and/or do life together with other single Christians, and are serious about dating healthily. Our primary mission is to be a place to connect you with other christian singles- whether it be your new best friend or significant other- through friendly, and life-giving conversations.
These free resources are my game-changing ways to transform how you’re showing up in your current season, while gaining insight to date in ways that are smart, easy, and fun.
Each week we’ll drop in with practical dating advice, funny relatable stories, answers to hard questions, and content created to equip YOU in your dating life. So much better than junk mail, am I right?
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