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What if Dating
Didn’t Have to suck?

Heart of Dating is changing the game to make dating pressure-free, fun, and intentional!

What if I told you that we’re changing the game in Christian dating? We’re going to hook you up with the practical resources and discussions you need to grow in clarity and confidence so that you can transform your dating life and actually meet quality people (Cheesy singles mixers excluded).

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What We’re All About

Wondering what makes us different from other Christian dating resources? We'd love to fill you in! Here's what sets us apart from the rest!


We’re not a dating site.

We’re here to help you transform your perspective on dating and maybe even get online in a way that excites you.


We won’t just throw bible verses at you.

We’re here to actually SHOW YOU how to apply these biblical principles to your dating life in a fun, practical, and relatable way!


This is a safe space.

A place where we won’t shame you for your past, or current struggles. Friend, you are welcome here (no matter what you’ve been through!).


Never been on a date?

Feel like you’ve dated everyone under the sun? Our input is applicable to you no matter where you are in your singleness and dating journey.


You’re not alone in the boat.

Here, you will meet an EPIC community of singles that will make you feel seen, heard, and understood.


We won't just give you great tools...

We'll also give you opportunities to practice dating and meet quality Christian singles!

Dating Expert, Author, Overachiever, Ex Love-Addict

Heyyoo, it’s Your Girl Kait Here!

Here’s the thing. I’ve seen it all when it comes to dating: nightmarish breakups, ghosting for days, people that turn out to be complete con-artists (including someone who tried to catfish my information on a dating app). I’ve even dated guys that seem ‘holier than thou’ but try to get into my panties on a first date. All.of.it.

Oh, and I should mention… I haven’t always been the Queen B dater myself. I’m sure plenty of guys in my past would have some stories to tell about me, too. I went through a quarter life crisis in my 20’s, and I decided something major needed to change with the way I approached dating. I invested in new friendships, sought out tons of therapy (Lord knows I needed it), and read just about every dating book on the planet.

And guess what? I started to actually like myself. In fact, over time I began to deeply love and value the woman God made me to be. I started to challenge myself to date differently. I threw my idea of “type” out the window and decided to let God surprise me.

In this process I realized something: dating can get better. I went from loathing my dating life, to walking in my worth, feeling confident to make a move, and finally dating with joy and integrity. Eventually I met the RIGHT guy for me… JJ Tomlin! But not gonna lie, he was totally unexpected. When I met him he was a skater punk boy with blue hair living in Seattle and was 5.5 years younger than me. I never would have seen myself dating someone that much younger than me, BUT GOD had other plans! And guess what is even more unexpected? God brought our paths TOGETHER to now serve single Christian men and women in a fresh and new way. How GOOD is our God?

If you let us, we’d love to meet you where you are, love on you, challenge you a bit, but most importantly help you truly LOVE this time in your life.

(PS. I only have one rule: you have to be willing to talk about the hard stuff, k?)


Let’s Get Real

Dating was not always a walk in the park for me. Becoming a dating coach took years of hard lessons and healing. Here’s how it went down!

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  • Hit puberty early, felt like a gangling awkward giraffe
  • Fell in puppy love with a guy named Teddy (and even sang him Brittney Spears)
  • Did my hair a different way every day in the 5th grade
  • Got caught racking up my parents phone bill by calling my crush in Canada
Photo of Kait Warman in 2004


  • Dyed my hair blonde, started shopping at A&F, became ‘popular’, guys actually noticed me
  • Had 16 boyfriends at the age of 16
  • Crossed physical boundaries thinking that’s what boys wanted
  • One of my boyfriends hooked up with my best friend- RIP to both relationships
Photo of Kait Warman in 2006


  • Got in my first long term relationship (lasting a whopping 5 years)
  • Learned how to date from “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”
  • Signed a purity pledge// Broke purity pledge after having sex for the first time
  • Made it through 2.5 years of long distance
  • Broke up with said boyfriend for a french fling
Photo of Kait Warman in 2011


  • Experienced gaslighting for the first time, questioned my sanity
  • Was sexually assaulted, but never told a soul for fear of being shamed
  • Worked a high powered fashion career by day, fought until 4am with bf at night
  • Got a restraining order on abusive bf. Got back together with abusive bf.
  • Finally ended the relationship after being cheated on (yet again).
Photo of Kait in 2014


  • Took time off dating to rediscover Kait
  • Became best friends with my therapist
  • Read every book on Christian dating
  • Cultivated deep friendships
Photo of Kait Warman in 2016


  • Started dating in a new way
  • Threw my giant “list” out the window
  • Dated a guy that wasn’t my type who ended up being pretty amazing
  • Still friends with said guy to this day
Photo of Kait Warman in 2017


  • Fell into deep infatuation with a lovely Christian man
  • Started planning my future wedding.
  • Got suddenly broken up with.
Photo of Kait Warman in 2018


  • God put it in my heart to start a podcast.
  • Got the courage to start Heart of Dating, released expectations
  • Continued to date, but ended things quickly when it was clearly not for me.
Photo of Kait Warman in 2019


  • Heart of Dating consistently hit the top 100 Christian Dating podcasts on iTunes
  • I became a dating coach (who would’ve thunk it?)
  • Finally began loving my body exactly as it was
  • Released my very first course on heartbreak
  • Signed a book deal (frequently thought “God, what is happening?”)
Photo of Kait Warman in 2020


  • Wrote my first book (cried many tears)
  • Released a dating service for people to Drop the Hanky
  • Launched the Heart of Dating Conference, over 5K singles showed up
  • Dated a man I thought was finally “it” for me (he ended things)
  • Read my own book to heal from that heartbreak (imagine that?)
Photo of Kait Warman in 2021


  • My first “book baby” came into the world, Thank You For Rejecting Me
  • Became a best-selling author- SAY WHAT!
  • Dated multiple people at once, did it with clarity and intentionality
  • Launched our second Conference, Singled Out.
  • Continued to cultivate a community of thousands of singles
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  • Got ENGAGED to a skater punk boy who is 5.5 years younger than me!
  • Had our first HYBRID In Person and Virtual Conference HODC 2022
  • Combined forces with my now HUSBAND to serve Christian Singles Together!
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Co-Host of HOD, Former Skater Punk Boy, Former Pro Football Player

What up fam, it’s JJ!

I have definitely been on a journey of dating like a boy to dating like a man. I have been on both sides of the ghosting, left on read, broken up with and rejected so I FEEL you! I came from a no-dating-till-18 household that taught me a lot of do’s and don’t with not a lot of why-behind-the-what. About two and a half years ago, I decided that I wanted to date truly like a man where I lead with clarity, intention, wisdom and servant-leadership. This is also ironically right before I met Kait! 

At the end of the day, the only way I believe we can effectively lead is by dying to ourselves and becoming the greatest servant-leaders. That is the true sign of man leading a relationship with wisdom, clarity and selflessness and what we at Heart of Dating challenge our men to strive for.

I am so excited to have you here, reading about Kait and myself and the growth ahead of you. We firmly believe that when women continually ask “where all the great, Godly men” that the answer is they are everywhere. They just have to be called UP (note: not OUT). We love seeing men LEVEL UP in all areas of their lives and believe the path to becoming the great husband and father you desire truly starts in SINGLENESS.

Let’s Work Together

I (Kait) have dated in all the wrong ways and learned so much along the way. Now I want to help YOU avoid some of the things I went through so you can find healing, wholeness, and boatload of confidence.

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Join Us in giving back

Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single?

We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we’d love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission.

Right now, there is a child who needs your love, encouragement and support. Together, let’s use our resources to make a difference internationally and join Compassion to release children from poverty in Jesus’ name!

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