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The Safety Seeker

aka Captain Worst Case Scenario

You’re steady, loyal, and deep-down a romantic... but you tend to play it safe when it comes to love. You want connection — you’re just not sure the “dream” is still realistic. You’ve likely been hurt, disillusioned, or worn down by dating. So instead of risking heartbreak again, you may choose what feels familiar — even if it’s not quite right.

You value consistency and stability, and sometimes that means you stay in situations longer than you should. You don’t want to be “too picky” or “miss your chance,” so you may settle for good enough even when your spirit is unsettled. You long for love — but you may have forgotten that you’re allowed to want it whole.

How your heart tends to navigate dating

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Strengths

  • Loyal, kind-hearted, and committed
  • Able to build consistency and connection over time
  • Willing to work through difficulties
  • Emotionally dependable and supportive
  • Anchored in responsibility and follow-through

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Attachment Leaning

Likely Attachment Style: Anxious or Ambivalent

You might lean toward clinging to what’s safe or familiar, even when it’s not best for you. Your fear of rejection or being “too much” may lead you to prioritize being chosen over being truly known.

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Communication Style

You’re generally honest and responsive, but you may struggle to voice discomfort or boundaries out of fear it’ll scare someone off. You tend to avoid rocking the boat, even when something doesn’t feel fully aligned. You value peace — sometimes at the cost of truth.

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Common Dating Struggles

  • Settling for “good enough” to avoid being alone
  • Confusing peacekeeping with true peace
  • Downplaying your standards out of fear they’re unrealistic
  • Struggling to walk away from lukewarm or inconsistent relationships
  • Feeling guilt or anxiety about being “too much” or wanting more

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Growth Opportunities

  • Believing that God’s best for you won’t require you to betray your peace
  • Learning to walk away from comfort in pursuit of something healthy
  • Practicing bold honesty even when it might create tension
  • Releasing the lie that your value is tied to whether someone chooses you
  • Trusting that waiting well doesn’t mean waiting forever

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Encouragement + Truth

God is not trying to “tease” you with love — but He is inviting you to trust Him enough to let go of what’s not quite right. His heart for you is wholeness, not just survival. You are allowed to desire more — and you don’t have to make yourself smaller to receive it.

“Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine…” — Ephesians 3:20

You are not too much — and you don’t have to settle for too little.

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