• Sandwich method…1) Honor, appreciation of them, 2) Message, 3) Honor, appreciation of them
• This is not done to soften the blow and people please, this is done to call out the good and value you believe they possess and are blessed with. 

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• The most loving thing you can do is be clear. 
• Be clear.. Clarity is KINDNESS, AMBIGUITY is NOT! Ambiguity is one of the most harmful and painful experiences in dating.
• Do you think you will be grey about your future wife? The mother of your kids? 
• If you are not ignited after months, guess what? You will never be. 

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• On both sides. Be aware of yours and hers.
• Hers - lead with compassion for her, lead with compassion for the pain or sadness
• Yours - don’t suppress or rage, acknowledge it with Jesus and close friends.

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• Could there be some awkwardness? Some emotional pain? For sure. But we play the long term game of hope and expectation to have right relationship.

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• Could you hold friendship? If not, there might be a problem with how you are leading 
• Could they date your friend or could you date their friend? If not, there might be a problem with how you are leading 
• Would they recommend you to a friend or vice versa? If not, there might be a problem with how you are leading 

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