• The bible doesn’t talk about masturbation. 
• Can you masturbate without lust?? I dont think so. 
• Secondly, what is it the point of that orgasm? It’s not for you, it’s for the sacrament.  It perverts the intent of that act. 
• Thirdly, it TRAINS you. This is the one of the GREATEST traps. It teaches it is about you, fulfills your lazy, self-centered desire and the irony is, that is the opposite of sex! Where it is not about you, your fulfillment, you work towards it, and it is focused on another. And it builds the relationship, not destroys it. 
• We find pleasure in sex in marriage because of what it points to, versus masturbation is momentary pleasure and conviction or shame that tears down. 

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• We go back to theology and the foundation of sex. What is the purpose of that urge? There are tons of underlying drivers to sexual urges. 
• Sex is an expression of intimacy, a relational exchange. There is no disconnecting the physical urge to the emotional and spiritual desire. So when we try to view it as a sexual urge and physical need like eating, then we almost create this hall pass system. 
• Sexual urges are absolutely intertwined with your deeper need to emotionally connect. Your sex drive, single or married, is actually fuled by your healthy connection to God, family and friends. Crazy enough, the more you are healthily, emotionally and spiritually connected to others in fellowship, the easier it is to manage your sex drive! 
• That’s what addictions and primarily sex addictions are driven by, unmet and neglected emotional needs - counselors call this intimacy disorder literally. 
• So I would say there are some awesome practical things, such as build as healthy and rich fellowship as possible, incorporate strenuous exercise to challenge you and deplete testosterone and engage in affectionate connection with others. This can even be a pet! 
• To close this out - I would give you all gift. Ironically it was very similar to a quote I heard from Billy Graham - birds will always be flying above you (sexual urges and temptations to lust), but you do not have to give that bird a nest to land in. 
• Here is what i would add to close on this question: 1) Thank and worship God. 2) Acknowledge the urge and desire, He created in you and thank Him for creating you without mistake. 3) Ask God to highlight any areas in your life, emotions, intimacy, that you have neglected today? Where am I weak, numb or ignoring? 4) Offer up your body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God! Quite literally! 5) Praise Him for a mind that can dream, imagine and think! 

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• We have a whole podcast on this. 
• There IS redemption. 
• There are consequences to sexual sin. 
• I AM scantified, and I am also BEING scantified. 

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