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Mini Man-sode 21: Dating Apps, Lust, and Window Shopping?

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JJ Tomlin

Join JJ as he dives into dating apps from a Christian perspective.

Dating Apps Here to Stay

Dating apps have become a part of our lives, and it looks like they are here to stay. In the past, people would meet through friends, family, or work. However, the rise of technology has changed the game. Nowadays, it is not uncommon to meet potential partners through dating apps. According to statistics, before the pandemic, 40% of couples were meeting through dating apps, and this number is only expected to rise.

With the rise of dating apps, there has also been a swing back towards wanting to meet in person. People are feeling fatigued with the endless swiping and messaging on dating apps. They want to meet potential partners in person and make a real connection. This is understandable, as it can be difficult to get to know someone through a few messages or a video call. Meeting in person is the best way to get to know someone, as it allows for real conversations and physical interaction.

Despite the fatigue with dating apps, they are here to stay. Dating apps have become a part of our lives, and they offer a convenient way to meet potential partners. They also offer a great way to meet people from all over the world, which can be great for people who are looking for something more than a casual fling.

Glorify God in all Choices.

Finally, it is important to seek help and support if needed. It is important to be open to feedback and to take responsibility for our own growth. It is also important to remember that we are all capable of growth, and that it is possible to glorify God in all of our choices. By being mindful of our choices and taking responsibility for our own growth, we can become better versions of ourselves and glorify God in all of our choices.

Find Quality Matches with Discretion.

Tinder, for example, is like the King China buffet. People go there for one thing: the hookup. Sure, some people find spouses and partners there, but it is not the ideal buffet for a healthy diet that fits with the quality matches that are being sought. Bumble is like a classic American buffet. It is popular with the older folk and baby boomers, but it is also easy to engorge yourself. Hinge is like a brunch buffet, with lots of quality matches. But it is still important to use discretion, as it is easy to get out of hand.

Set Boundaries for Dating Apps.

When using dating apps, it is important to be mindful of the type of people you are interacting with. Many of the apps are not necessarily Christian-based, so it is important to be aware of what type of people you are interacting with. It is also important to set boundaries for yourself. For example, you may want to set boundaries such as not engaging in conversations with people who are not Christian.

It is also important to remember that there are other venues, dating apps, that are better suited to find quality matches. For example, Holy App and Salt are two popular Christian-based dating apps. These apps are designed for people who are looking for godly, healthy matches who are serious about marriage. By using these apps, you can be sure that you are engaging with people who share the same values as you.

Set Expectations Low for Dating.

When it comes to dating apps, it is important to set expectations low. Dating apps can be incredibly addictive, as they provide a source of validation and attention. It is easy to go into these apps seeking a boost of self-confidence, but it is important to remember that we don’t always know what we are dealing with. It is easy to date in a silo and act foolish without anyone knowing. It is important to be transparent and vulnerable when engaging in any type of relationship, and to set ourselves up for success.

It is also important to remember that the chances of matches ending up in a first date are actually quite low. According to research, if you have 10 matches, 80% of those are not even going to end up on a first date. Of those remaining, you may or may not even go on a second date. It is important to keep expectations low and not expect an amazing experience every single time. You will likely get ghosted or rejected at some point, and it is important to be prepared for this. 

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JJ Tomlin is a missionary kid born in Belgium, originally from Tennessee, and currently residing in the OC. He currently works in Gaming/E-Commerce, enjoys watching his Tennessee Titans on Sundays with his Goldendoodle Teddy and loves working with Christian men to raise the bar in singleness and dating.


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