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What If Rejection Is Ruining Your Life

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Kait Warman & Hailey Kenyon

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Kait and Hailey share their past with rejection, lies they’ve believed, and how they have rewritten their rejection stories. 

Rejection Hurts

  • Emotional pain is closely related to physical pain. 
  • Heart break can actually feel heart broken, really painful.

Kait’s Story

  • Rejection from a former boyfriend, Chris.
  • Awesome guy, christian guy, all her friends and family loved him, and believed they would be together. 
  • 6 months in he said he wasn’t sure he had peace about marrying her. 
  • Ended up rejecting Kait, and causing a heart break. 
  • This led to the biggest lie about rejection for Kait: I’m good, but never enough. 
  • Outwardly she’s an enneagram 3, career woman, knows how to put herself together but inwardly there’s a lie that once people really get to know her, her brokenness, and past, that she’s never enough.

Hailey’s Story

  • Hailey had a relationship with a guy and remembers sitting out on the curb in front of her house breaking up with her when he had just said I love you that morning. 
  • He said, “You are the closest thing to perfect, but it’s not working.”
  • This led to the biggest lie about rejection for Hailey: If these guys are rejecting me there’s no way I’m worthy of the right guy. 
  • Hailey would be all in with guys as soon as they we’re in a relationship and feel like they were these amazing guys and then after the break up friends would tell her they knew it wouldn’t work out. So somewhere along the way, she missed the memo that these guys weren’t good enough for her. 
  • She was putting her identity and worth in what those guys thought of her in the context of a romantic relationship instead of in Christ. 

Takeaways

  • You have to know your biggest lie of rejection so you can see it when it’s coming. 
  • First I need to realize it’s okay to not have a perfect story, to still be in process. My only promise can really only be that I can be humble to admit my wrongs and keep working on it. 
  • When we relieve the pressure, we can date from a place where I don’t need to be perfect, and need you to like me and choose me because I already am those good things. 
  • In rejection we tend to give the other person so much power to be able to hurt us that badly. 
  • Reframe the rejection, and not make it about you. It’s about them not being in the right place to be in that relationship and that’s okay. 
  • Rejection is a redirection to something better. 
  • You are a powerful, strong person, you can take your power back and you can allow rejection to not hurt you so much. 
  • Rejection Shield: Write down your biggest lies about rejection and heartbreak, and start rejecting those with the truth of what God says about you, what His word says, and the character of God. 

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Kait Warman

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Kait Warman is a best-selling author, speaker, popular relationship coach, and the founder of Heart of Dating. She helps thousands of men and women on their journeys through the conversations on the Heart of Dating Podcast, which launched in 2018. 

Through her ministry, Kait’s mission is to empower both men and women to have the courage to own their story, walk in victory, thrive with purpose, and discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships. In her new book, Thank You for Rejecting Me: Transform Pain into Purpose and Learn to Fight for Yourself, Kait vulnerably shares how she grew through her deepest, darkest rejections and offers readers the tools to heal from the past, take back their power, and walk in strength, victory, and love into their future. Kait currently lives in the Los Angeles area and loves sunshine, walks, Jesus, and lip syncing to Celine Dion.

Hailey Kenyon

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Hailey Kenyon is the Digital Marketing Coordinator at Heart of Dating. She has been with HOD since January 2022 where she stared out as an intern. Hailey is also a Content Creator & Communicator. She has a heart for seeing the younger generations walk out their faith boldly & love others deeply. You can follow her on instagram for daily stories and encouragement and check out her website as well!

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