Can two people with different spiritual backgrounds, or different expressions of faith, actually work together? YES—and sometimes, it can even be AMAZING.

Julie and Addison’s story is case in point: he leans more Scripture; she’s more Holy Spirit. Rather than this being a dealbreaker, it’s actually a gift that pushes them out of their “bubble.” The key is humility—a willingness to learn, be challenged, and grow in your faith through each other. Attraction to a partner’s spiritual life isn’t about checking all the same faith boxes, but admiring how their walk with God sharpens and encourages you.

So, yes, Baptists and Charismatics CAN date (and thrive)! The issue is not style, but heart posture: curiosity, openness, and a shared commitment to putting God center stage. Humility and teachability are massive green flags in any relationship.

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Oof, the forbidden “flirt to convert!” Addison and Julie are honest—yes, their story started with a form of missionary dating. But—major caveat—they do NOT recommend it. Their journey was fast, and Julie made a personal, radical commitment to follow Jesus independent of their relationship (including a long “Isaac season” of separation).

The takeaway? Don’t make yourself the “pot of gold at the end of the rainbow” where God is just a means to get to you. If your relationship with God is dependent on the other person’s faith, there’s a massive risk for codependency and disappointment. Real transformation has to be between them and God, not orchestrated by your efforts.

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So, how do you figure out if someone is the “same kind” as you? Addison shares two 🔑 questions for moving towards marriage:

1. Am I willing to lay down my life for this person?
2. Do I see them genuinely laying down their life for God?

It’s all about asking the hard questions, giving things TIME to reveal themselves, and not rushing through the process out of anxiety or fear of missing out. Pay attention to speed and direction in their pursuit of God—velocity over history. And keep physical boundaries intact so you don’t cloud your discernment.

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A special word to all our nurturers: if you’re always the spiritual leader, it’s a red flag. Julie and Addison point out that a thriving partnership means BOTH people are willing to lay down their lives for God and each other. If you’re dragging someone along or constantly doing the spiritual “heavy lifting,” you’re stuck with a donkey and an ox. You’ll just end up going in circles.

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Ultimately, unity is not about sameness. It’s about two people, with their unique strengths and spiritual leanings, agreeing on the ultimate direction and Master of their lives. Don’t let fear of being different rob you of authentic unity—differences make you sharper! But die to the fantasy that you can be the “savior” in your relationship. That’s God’s job, not yours.

Remember fam, God’s best is worth waiting for. Don’t settle out of fear—keep your standards high, your heart surrendered, and enjoy the adventure of discovering TRUE spiritual compatibility.

Until next time, HOD fam—keep dating with intention! 💛

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