How do you REALLY know they are right for you?!
It’s definitely not an easy ‘1,2,3’ step process to determine if someone is right for you or not. While it is SO important, we often put so much pressure on making the right decision that we often lean too logically and put our personal feelings and peace on the back burner…
When in reality, this is YOUR decision. YOUR feelings. YOUR peace. YOUR future.
There’s a lot that goes into figuring out if someone is right for you, so let’s dive in…
First things first, evaluations take one word: TIME. This isn’t (and should not be) a decision you can easily make overnight. Let’s be honest… you’ve probably NEVER heard anybody say “I really regret dating her and making sure that it was the right decision. It took me 3 months too long.” But you do hear people say “I wish I took a bit more time getting to know them before getting engaged”. The key difference here is… taking TIME that is paced with loads of wisdom.
Ask yourself: Are they helping you advance toward the Kingdom? Are they challenging you to be mission-minded? Are you better for His glory together than you are apart?
The biggest thing to evaluate here is how your relationship stacks up with God’s will and purpose for your life. So many singles are out there looking for "the one" instead of looking for the RIGHT ONE. The right one is someone who draws you closer to God and encourages you in your God-given purpose. Ask yourself… Is this relationship just fun and feely or are you truly running the race together?
If you are UNCLEAR about what you are looking for, you will likely be UNCLEAR about if you should be with them when it comes down to it. I cannot stress this enough! If you don’t know your core values and non-negotiables, I encourage you to check out our FREE guide to help you discover what they may be for you.
You don’t have to do this evaluation alone. Talk to God about it! Over time, He will make it very clear to you what He wants for you and your relationship.
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