What does it mean to date the unexpected?
Dating the unexpected is simply being open to dating those outside of your usual “type.” We often disqualify people solely based on our first impression and if they don’t fit the criteria we’ve always pictured our future spouse having (especially physically)...then we write them off.
So why should you date the unexpected?
First off, you SHOULD be physically attracted to the person you are going to marry. Though attraction is SO important, we often put all the weight on physical attraction when there are actually so many other types and ways to be attracted to someone.
Physical attraction is something that can truly grow over time if you give it the space to do so. As you get to know someone, you may find yourself even more attracted to what’s on the outside BECAUSE of what’s on the inside such as their relationship with God, their intellectual appeal, or their emotionally stability.
I’m SO passionate about dating the unexpected because when I was open to dating the unexpected, God did the unexpected and I met my HUSBAND that way guys!!!
With JJ, the 4 other buckets of attraction were there and strong, but I was being very superficial in judging him for his skater style, blue hair, etc. So I challenged myself to look past that, and through time, all 5 buckets of attraction were super strong! 👏 As a society, we often hyper-focus on just the physical… which spoiler is the ONLY bucket of attraction that is guaranteed to change 😉
I’m gonna be REAL with y’all, it was not EASY for me to break out of my type, in fact, if it weren’t for trusted friends and mentors, I don’t know that I would’ve pushed myself to go get out of my type.
But you know what?? I am SO GLAD I DID!!
Not only that, but since sharing my story with JJ I have seen so many of YOU breaking out of your type and sharing your stories with me. It’s a beautiful thing and I’m so proud of you!
I REALLY want to encourage you to open yourself to the unexpected... because God just might do the unexpected!! (Helloooo I married the skater punk boy with platinum/ blue hair that is 5.5 years younger than me!!!)
So I challenge you to consider the person who might not be your physical “type” but has attractive qualities in their personality, emotions, spirituality, and intellect.
How do you date the unexpected?
We have SEVERAL great episodes on type, attraction and dating the unexpected for you to check out! Our whole conference theme last year was dating the unexpected, if you want to watch that in its entirety, you can join our Patreon channel at the third tier!
Friend, give them a chance! You never know who you may meet…;)
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