• Not about how you dress
• Not weakness or passivity
• Not being without opinions or just submitting to men
• Not shrinking or self-silencing

Instead, it’s receiving, being, expressing, and inviting.

We’re not talking about man-made constructs here! Alana shares how God designed men and women with distinct identities and roles that are gifts, not limitations. Drawing from the book Biblical Femininity by Grace Church, she highlights:

• Men’s core calling: Responsibility and leadership (with passivity as the primary temptation)
• Women’s core calling: To be an essential counterpart (with autonomy as the temptation, cue self-protection or self-promotion)
  When women try to do it all alone, it can block the space for a man to step into his role.

This is for everyone wanting to actually grow in this area. Try these this week:

1. Slow down physically: Literally, talk and walk slower to bring yourself out of “doing” and into “being.”
2. Receive well: Accept compliments. Let someone open a door or help you—receive and say thank you!
3. Express yourself: Share how you feel, especially when someone blesses you.
4. Create space for men to lead: Don’t act like you’ve got it all together to the point no one can step in and pursue.
5. Transition out of work mode: Find a ritual (shower, music, dance) to flip the switch from work “masculine” to relational “feminine.”

Pick ONE and practice it this week!

Stepping into true femininity isn’t about losing your power—it’s about embodying the fullness of how you were created. Men and women need each other! If this message hit home, Alana offers coaching to help you bridge the gap between learning and living this out in real relationships (heartofdating.com/coaching).

Want to dive deeper? She recommends the book Biblical Femininity and says Heart of Dating’s School of Dating will be opening a new cohort at the start of next year. Stay tuned!

We need each other, HOD fam. Feminine and masculine are gifts—let’s embrace them and support each other on this journey!