Gary Thomas joins Kait and JJ for a deep dive into how to have a shame-free and godly foundation of sex.
There is sometimes a real fear in the body of Christ that singles cannot even hear the word sex because believers will not be able to control their minds. And THEREFORE, we cannot talk about the conversation of sex with singles, which creates harmful cycles around sex, sexuality. What do you think about this predicament?
The reality is GOD LOVES sex… How do we see this play out specifically in scripture and how does that exemplify God’s view of sex?
Can you walk us through the 5 purposes of Sex?
Why is it so important for us to find sex sacred and divine? Why is it so important for us to grasp it is much more than a physical transaction?
Why does God guice and command us to wait until marriage? How does understanding the absolute sacrednness of sex change our WHY or our conviction?
It is no surpise that the sacredness of sex has been skewed in ways by culture on one side (it’s just sex) and Church purity culture on the other (purity alone is on the pedestal). How does a Christian separate SHAME from sexuality and their Godly created sex drive from the purity culture narrative?
There is a lot of teaching from the post purity culture pendulum that teaches to embrace, explore our sexuality.. Should we embrace our sexuality? If so, what degree or how? A prayer often singles pray is, “God.. Thank you for my sexual nature, please shut it down until I get married!”.. BUT how can that be damaging?
If we have defined that sexuality and sex drive is GOOD and created by our good God… How does a single not make sex and idol or harbor resentment towards God in having to wait when they have a sex drive?
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Gary Thomas’ writing and speaking focuses on bringing people closer to Christ and closer to others. He is the author of over 20 books that together have sold two million copies and have been translated into more than a dozen languages. These books include When to Walk Away: Finding Freedom from Toxic People; Sacred Marriage: What if God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?, The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not About Who You Marry, but Why?, and the Gold Medallion award winner Authentic Faith.
Gary holds a B.A. in English Literature from Western Washington University, an MA degree in systematic theology from Regent College (Vancouver, BC), and an honorary Doctor of Divinity degree from Western Seminary (Portland, OR). He is the teaching pastor at Cherry Hills Community Church in Highlands Ranch, Colorado and an adjunct faculty member at Western Seminary in Portland, Oregon.
Gary’s speaking ministry has led him to speak in all 50 states and nine different countries, and on numerous national television and radio programs, including multiple appearances on Focus on the Family and Family Life Today. Gary’s interviews on Focus on the Family have been chosen among the “Best of 2013,” “Best of 2014” “Best of 2017” “Best of 2021” and “Best of 2022.”
Gary enjoys running in his spare time and has completed 14 marathons, including the Boston Marathon three times. He and his wife Lisa have been married for 38 years and they have three adult children and two grandchildren.
Gary is active online through his website (www.garythomas.com), twitter (@garyLthomas) Facebook
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