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Today we’re diving into the big question of whether women should initiate in Christian dating as JJ and Kait break down biblical perspectives, cultural shifts, and practical advice for making the first move!
Introduction
The Big Question: Should Women Initiate?
Ruth & Boaz, Proverbs 18:22, and Biblical Models
What Counts as "Initiation"? (And What Doesn't)
Why Are Women (and Men) So Frustrated By This?
What Should Women Do?
Why Guys Aren’t Initiating (As Much As You’d Like)
God’s Design, Masculinity & Femininity
Takeaways
Heyyyy HOD fam! We are back and diving deep into one of the biggest Qs we hear ALL the time in the Christian dating space: Should women initiate? This episode is a must-listen for every single wondering about taking the first step, AND for your friends who have thoughts, opinions, or just a whole lot of confusion about “who goes first” in Christian dating. Kait and JJ are keeping it real (and super honest) about initiation, pursuit, and the dating dynamics of today. Whether you’ve ever debated Ruth and Boaz, clung to Proverbs 18:22, or straight up felt stuck in the mixed messages—this convo is for YOU. Let’s go!!!
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Kait Tomlin is a best-selling author, speaker, popular relationship coach, and the founder of Heart of Dating. She helps thousands of men and women on their journeys through the conversations on the Heart of Dating Podcast, which launched in 2018.
Through her ministry, Kait’s mission is to empower both men and women to have the courage to own their story, walk in victory, thrive with purpose, and discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships. In her new book, Thank You for Rejecting Me: Transform Pain into Purpose and Learn to Fight for Yourself, Kait vulnerably shares how she grew through her deepest, darkest rejections and offers readers the tools to heal from the past, take back their power, and walk in strength, victory, and love into their future. Kait currently lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband JJ and their pups Lovey and Teddy. She loves sunshine, walks, Jesus, and lip syncing to Celine Dion.
JJ Tomlin is a missionary kid born in Belgium, originally from Tennessee, and currently residing in the OC. He currently works in Gaming/E-Commerce, enjoys watching his Tennessee Titans on Sundays with his Goldendoodle Teddy and loves working with Christian men to raise the bar in singleness and dating.
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