• We think it’s okay to kiss. 
• There’s a deeper question here though. Can you kiss without it going further? Can you kiss without lusting? 
• Is it worth going there? 

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• You don’t kiss a ton of people and form ties to people who are NOT for you.
• During the DATING phase can be such a blessing to wait to kiss because your vision isn’t distorted. You can remain objective. 

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• Idolized to the point it elevates you morally and makes you prideful about it. 
• There is a balance between being proud of yourself for holding a boundary and then being prideful and feeling better than others because you’ve not kissed someone. Unfortunately this usually comes from purity culture teaching people to shut down their bodies. 

• The funny part is that both sides of the pendulum are wrong because they are inherently defining you. 

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• SHAME from being kissed when you didn’t provide consent. Men, always asking for conscent is GREAT. 
• If ASKING for consent is going to kill the mood, the mood is not that stable to begin with!
• Speak up for needs and boundaries.
• Don’t shrink boundaries to people please. 

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