Today JJ is joined by Scott Kedersha to discuss what you should be praying for your future spouse.
As a single, did you pray for your spouse? Was that a rhythm and habit for you?
What should I be praying for as a single, when it comes to my future spouse?
Scott’s one piece of advice for seriously dating couples thinking about engagement and maybe marriage is…
Community vs. Counsel
Hey hey hey men of the Heart of Dating community! We are back with another men’s minisode just for you! Last week we talked all about why you shouldn’t pray for your future spouse, and today we’re turning that upside down to talk about what you should be praying for your future spouse. We have an amazing special guest today, Scott Kedersha. We’re pumped to dive into this episode so let’s get it started!
Scott read a statistic a couple years ago from a study in 1997 that’s been quoted in many other studies since. The divorce rate for couples who pray consistently was less than 1%. Not just less, but like SIGNIFICANTLY less. The statistic they gave was 1 out of 1,152 couples who pray together get divorced. Meaning that 1,151 are still married. Divorce rates inside and outside the church are somewhere between 30-50% so this statistic is hard to believe. Whatever it is, it’s too high and if there is something couples can do to help them stay together they should do it. Besides that, if God says the importance of prayer in our lives and therefore the importance of it in marriage then I want to make sure I’m doing that regardless of what the statistics say. It’s not just the divorce rate, but also the satisfaction in couples who pray together.
Scott has seen that healthy marriages are marked by both individual prayer lives and prayer lives together. Scott confesses that for a long time he was hypocritical when telling couples that they have to pray together because it’s not something he and his wife were living out. It just wasn’t something they were prioritizing and he would say that he wishes it was something they had started from the beginning of their relationship.
For most of Scott’s single life he was not a Christian. So he went 24 without Jesus and then got married at 28. Even as a single Scott didn’t really prioritize prayer. It was a combination of the study we talked about earlier and a couple, Jim and Judy, that had an amazing prayer life that Scott decided to get serious about prayer with his wife.
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