In today’s episode JJ is unpacking if praying for your future spouse even matters and if you should or shouldn’t do it.
The question of if I should pray for my future spouse should probably start with, should I, biblically? Does it matter? What happens when I pray for my future spouse?
If you won’t take it from us, take it from these guys…
John Mark Comer at Vintage Church in LA has a wonderful booklet on prayer with 4 weeks of exercises, but they explore the four stages of prayer in his sermons.
Focusing on Praying for Your Spouse
All of Jesus’ teaching on prayer can be summarized by one work - ASKING.
How to pray and why it’s important
Here is why praying for your spouse if your soul is in the right place is a great thing…
Hey guysss welcome back to another men’s minisode Friday! We just finished up a season on red flags and we’re jumping back into it today with a little mini season. Today we’re diving into praying for your future spouse. Should you pray for them? Should you not? Let’s dive in!
For JJ, he didn’t like praying for his future spouse, he did not practice the habit of it, and it was never a priority for him. He didn’t pray for his spouse for a couple of reasons, but the top reason was probably because of his heart posture toward prayer. He was so cynical about prayer because he had such an unhopeful idea of prayer. He had this mentality that God’s will and way is inevitable whether or not he prayed. In reality he was excusing himself from the responsibility of praying for specific things. If he had to be honest, he was being lazy, he didn’t want to go through all the time and effort. Secondly, he was scared. At the root of it he was scared that if God didn’t actually show up in this situation then he would be disappointed, or maybe his prayer wasn’t good enough, spiritually he wasn’t in a place where he could command authority enough for God to actually surface, or that he would embarrass himself, especially if it was a prayer with other people and for other people. So he would justify it in his mind with statements like, “God you know who I’m going to marry, take care of them, you got this. I’m not going to bother praying about this because you're in control and you got it.”
The greatest trap we can fall into with the enemy is believing a shred of truth and then justifying it as the way we want to believe it. Because honestly, there is an essence of truth in everything JJ was saying before. God’s will is sovereign and He is in control. We release that control to Him. However, he would justify and bend that truth to be something he wanted, which was, to remain in fear, to not walk in faith, and to be lazy with his prayer life.
When we talk about prayer, if you’ve never done conducive and elaborate study on prayer, do it! Until prayer became a priority in JJ’s life, he was MISSING OUT. It has completely transformed JJ’s life. Studying and learning about God’s word and then practicing all aspects of prayer transforms your life. It has radically REDEEMED and revived JJ’s spiritual life.
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