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HOD Select: Is Making Out A Sin?


JD Rodgers

JD Rodgers joins Kait to talk about if making out is a sin. 


Hey fam! We’re still on a BREAK but we’re coming to you with some throwback episodes until season 11 starts later this summer! This fun episode is with JD Rodgers and we’re talking about is making out is a SIN! 

We don’t believe in hard and fast rules here, so they talk a ton about their personal convictions and taking those to God first and foremost! 

Is Making Out a Sin?!

People have clicked on this episode because they’re CURIOUS and they want to KNOW! And JD believes the reason we want to know so bad is because there is NOTHING in scripture that is clear in terms of these nuanced things like making out! What we DO KNOW is that sex was created by God for marraige. However, we know there is so much that can happen outside of intercourse so people start to make their own rules.

When we create our own rules sometimes this leads to HURT because anytime we get physical with someone we’re creating strong ties and bonds to them and that creates some complex situations! 

We believe that your sexual desire is BEAUTIFUL, that is from God! How do we steward that WELL in dating?!

The WHY and the heart behind making out in a relationship COULD be because of sinful tendencies. 

JD says that a Christian man’s GOAL in dating is to FIRST honor God! And as a result of that he honors God’s daughter in the dating relationship. Boundaries can look like I care about you so much that I’m going to lay aside my wants to honor you to the best of my ability. 

What is making out?!

If the lips are moving and the tongue is involved, that’s MAKING OUT! Some may call it french kissing…LOL

JD’s Advice

Search your WHY behind your action. Why do you need to do that? What do you hope to gain through that? Physical chemistry is NOT a legitimate reason to know if you want to be with someone or not. It will NOT sustain your marriage! 

A lot of women will end up participating in physical intimacy because they feel like they’re giving the guy what they want. We have to see what OUR boundaries are and STICK to them!! We don’t have to do things becuase we think the other person wants that. 

JD asks the guys, what are you hoping you receive from this that you don’t already have? 

What does making out do PHYSICALLY for the guys?!

For a lot of guys it’s really hard to stop at making out because what making out does is it starts waking up your body and telling it you’re headed towards a destination. The body wasn’t designed to start and stop. When you introduce making out to your relationship your body is going to be very CONFUSED! Is it really worth it? Can you really not wait until marriage? And if not, why not? Is it an idol in your life? 

I’d rather sacrifice something GOOD now, for something GREAT later when it’s in God’s design and it lacks shame and guilt! 

Ask Yourself

Why am I falling into this? 

Why do I crave this physical intimacy so much? 

Do I believe that my sexual desire is good? 

What do I know about myself and my tendancies? 

Why am I trying to set boundaries and then never able to follow them? 

JD’s Final Nugget

In dating and relationships, you have to be on the exact same page when it comes to physical intimacy because if you’re not someone is going to end up going farther than they wanted to. 

JD says that it’s the man’s job to lead and be clear about what page you’re on, the boundaries that will be put in place to best honor each other and honor God, and how he intends to pursue you. 

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JD Rodgers

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JD is the Creative Director of The Porch at Watermark Community Church. He is a podcaster, content creator, and public speaker.

Kait Tomlin

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Kait Tomlin is a best-selling author, speaker, popular relationship coach, and the founder of Heart of Dating. She helps thousands of men and women on their journeys through the conversations on the Heart of Dating Podcast, which launched in 2018.

Through her ministry, Kait’s mission is to empower both men and women to have the courage to own their story, walk in victory, thrive with purpose, and discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships. In her new book, Thank You for Rejecting Me: Transform Pain into Purpose and Learn to Fight for Yourself, Kait vulnerably shares how she grew through her deepest, darkest rejections and offers readers the tools to heal from the past, take back their power, and walk in strength, victory, and love into their future. Kait currently lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband JJ and their pups Lovey and Teddy. She loves sunshine, walks, Jesus, and lip syncing to Celine Dion.

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