• The infamous question “Why are you still single?” What should our answer look like?
• Answer: “That’s right. Because I haven’t found someone worthy of the journey I am on.”
• When people PRY about your dating life or want to set you up set BOUNDARIES. We must give generous assumptions…  and then you can tell them how it makes you feel.
• Say “I know you don’t have any kind of negative intention with asking me that and you truly do care about it, and for me talking about my relationship status during the holidays can feel really hard. I’m constantly reminded of it in so many ways, I’d love to not talk about it this season.”

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• In the way you answer questions (like we talked about above)
• Don’t go overkill on all the romcoms if it leads to more loneliness or sadness

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• Brace yourselves. You have first christmas’s, engagements, baby announcements all coming.
• You have two options: Mindset change and Set boundaries  
• Mindset Change: View each scroll as a reminder of what can happen, versus what hasn't happened for you. Much more positive and allows us to celebrate with those people! We can look forward to the posts, can't wait to hear them, and it reminds us of God’s goodness through  other’s stories.
• Boundaries: If you can't flip the mindset and struggle with a thought pattern or loneliness (totally OK), why set your path up with trip wires and triggers? 

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• Like is this in family / friendship circles?? 
• This going to be really really hard, and is going to take a lot of self realization. I would view every time you feel that loneliness, that comparison, that FOMO in the pair off that this is your time to choose gratefulness and choose JOY… choosing to embrace the singleness, imma rock this solo and love it.. I am going to have fun pairing up with grandma, my little cousin, we are going to have more fun than everybody else.
• What the couples wont tell you: They will mourn their singleness, they might be fighting right after that dinner, like the grass is greener sometimes and other times im like woof - cherish that singleness 
• If it’s helpful, look back at fond time of life for you.. Especially the moments where life was good but you were not so grateful in that moment.. And cherish the singleness from that place.. 

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• GREAT time to meet OTHER singles- tons of holiday events!!!
• Join TSA!!! Wherever you are traveling!
• Celebrate how you like. 
• Grab hot cocoa and go for a christmas light drive. 
• Go hunting or golfing. 
• Go to the movies solo. 
• Sleep in. 
• Host or co-host a party - yah great way to meet others and reconnect! 
• Sibling sleep overs.
• Mail letters to your favorite people - super great way to be an awesome friend
• Dress up and go to a christmas party (virtual or in person) 
• DROP THE HANKY (HEY - Pssttt - Every single is MORE open in the HOLIDAYS OK)
• Make yourself your FAV fancy holiday meal and watch your favorite movie
• Travel SOLO before or after.. Take advantage of that break and the travel downtimes for vacation spots.

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• Family dynamics can be hard with couples- We now split time between states and multiple sets of parents
• You have ABSOLUTE FREEDOM and AUTONOMY.. You only have to see your parents even if they are split it is still less complicated.. 
• You can stay up till when you want
• You can bounce from the house when you want 
• You can say what you’d like 
• You can eat whatever you want 
• You can truly enjoy whatever makes you happy in your hometown, go see whatever friends you want..
• No expectations 

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