• Your sexuality is God’s way of reminding you, you weren’t meant to do life alone. It’s about a lot more than having sex with somebody.
• Your sexuailty is everything that encompasses that drive in you that draws you to people, that helps you appreciate them, that makes you want to share at a level that’s very vulnerable. 

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• You feel the discomfort. It’s a longing and an urge, it’s not a need. This will pass.
• We can feed that urge by thinking about it more. It’s important to be aware of what we’re watching, reading, etc. to make sure we’re not feeding the urge. 
• When you feel this need to have sex. You don’t actually need sex, you’re longing for intimacy, and you’re lonely. 
• We end up using sex or pornograhy for comfort. 
• We link sex with a legitimate need and then think sex is the need. 
• If self control is your only strategy against sexual temptation that is either going to fail you or you’re going to shut down your sexuality, which isn’t a good thing. 
• Ask the Lord to begin showing you where you need healing, and where you have legitamate needs in your life that aren’t being met and you’re using sex as a way to try to scrach that itch. 
• We all have lies we begin to believe about sex. 
• Shame is the emotion that comes out of believing lies. 

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• There were some really good things in the purity message and people who are deconstructing are throwing it all out. 
• The purity culture didn’t talk about some of the most important topics. 
• The most harmful thing that came from the purity culture movement was that it equated your sexual purity with the gospel. That’s not consistent with what the Bible says. 
• What did the purity culture get right and where have we really complicated this topic? 

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• Flirting is connecting with someone and showing them, that they’re seen, heard, and that you’re interested in them in a curious way. 
• Some people are afraid of sexualizing a relationship. 
• What is flirting to you? It isn’t a one size fits all. Flirting doesn’t have to automatically have a sexual connotation. 

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• Intimacy has so many different categories. 
• It’s a problem that we only define intimacy as sexual in today’s world. 
• Intimacy and closeness doesn’t always mean sexual. 
• Physical intimacy is supposed to be an expression of the growing intimacy in other areas like spiritually, emotional, trust, commitment level. 

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• What is sexual activity? Anything that is purposely stimulating us sexually and leading towards sex. 
• There are ways to be romantic and connect without it being sexual. 
• Wisdom and discernment. 
• Physical intimacy should be consistent with other levels of intimacy and commitment level.

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• The Bible doesn’t mention masturbation at all. There are other things explictly stated however, masterbation isn’t. 
• We need to be very careful not to pile on shame to singles who are struggling with this. 
• When something isn’t specifically addressed in scripture we want to use principles of wisdom to navigate it. 
• If masturbation is obsessive for you then it is more than likely a symptom not the problem. 
• One of the negatives of masturbation, particularly if it is habitual, is that it is training your body to only respond to your touch. So when people get married they have trouble responding to their spouse’s touch.

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