Join Kait and JJ as they tackle the nuanced hot topic of drinking, nicotine, vaping, and weed.
We have to first set the foundation by acknowledging that we’re not saved by not smoking and drinking. ONLY Jesus and accepting him into your heart saves you. CONVICTION in this conversation is HUGE! If you are convicted by one of these behaviors out of principal or scripture, then that for us is by far the GREATEST priority. That DOES change from person to person especially when scripture isn’t entirely CLEAR! A great scripture point is 1 Corinthians 10:23 “All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up.” A question we LOVE to ask is, “does it glorify and advance my relationship with God?”
This one is huge because people judge so quickly here! The truth is we all have a bias here based on what you experienced in your family, community, and church. Let’s start off with someone who is a SOCIAL DRINKER, as in, they have a glass or two of wine at dinner with friends once or twice a week some weeks, not at all. This is where Kait falls! Kait saw leaders who she really respected, drinking in MODERATION in a really healthy way and this helped her form her beliefs around it.
Jesus made wine on purpose for the wedding, that was His first miracle! Paul told Timothy to drink it medicinally. Church leaders are not to be ENSLAVED to it! Moderate use is OKAY. There is no scriptual case that absolutely that forbids alcohol. That means that absistence of alcohol in totality is based off of principle. Ephesians 5 talks about not getting drunk with wine. Romans 14 talks about it being good not to drink or anything that casues your brother to stumble. Hosea 4 says to beware of wine as it takes from understanding. Proverbs 31 says it is not for kings to get drunk. Side note…defintiely check out the Becoming Something Podcast with JP Polkuda. They have a GREAT episode about this!!
What is your motivation for drinking? There are 3 categories here… 1) Someone who drinks social (we’ve already discussed. 2) Someone who drinks more perpetually. They drink more often and when they do they may opt for the 3rd or 4th glass. This could be classified as a functioning alcoholic. They don’t need it everyday, but they go overboard when they do. 3) Someone who truly has an addiction. They have to have it everyday. If you’re in category 2 or 3 that’s where you need to start really taking inventory and start using discernment.
WHY do people eliminate others immediately for alcohol even if only socially?
This could be because of the person’s own past experiences with people who had ADDICTION. It could also be because it was drille dinto them that alcohol is the devil. This could also be scripture out of context. And lastly, we all have BIAS and personal preference here.
We want to encourage those of you who have eliminated others based on this, to be more open and get curious with those who are drinking SOCIALLY. If this is something that you can’t be around because of your own experience, etc. then we have empathy for you here!
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