• Many times religious people punish naturally beautiful women.
• Women who are more well endowed in certain areas have been demonized just by having the bodies they have. <<< this is UNFAIR because the same standard is not given to all.
• When we notice someone is sexy we have to ask ourselves if they’re actually doing anything wrong. Are they actually not upholding the standard of the environment that we’re in OR am I noticing that they’re beautiful? 
• We ascribe intent way too often. 

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• Song of Songs is a collection of poems to be regarded and enjoyed as loving poetry
• There is a theme of longing, desire and pursuit
• Theme is a theme of sexual desire for one another
• These poems would NOT be published in the BIBLE if the woman should be GUILTY to be attractive
• We need to give women the permission to BE BEAUTIFUL as God intended.
• Song of Songs 7:1-10- describes her unchangeable features- neck, nose, mouth, hair, stature this is WHO SHE IS- he is sexually attracted to WHO SHE IS.
• At what point can women just exist in the bodies they’re in? 
• Song of Songs 6:1-younger women who CELEBRATE the beauty of the older women.
• Women’s bodies have been SO objectified–another woman’s BEAUTY is not her choice- but LUST IS OUR CHOICE. 

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• There is a difference between being sexy and being suductive. 
• We are trying to avoid women being seductive- the difference between being sexy and being seductive is INTENT.
• Women who use their attractiveness to get a certain outcome- these are all intentional decisions in hopes someone else will give you what you want or lust after you.
• We can’t ascribe that intent- only WE can and GOD can.
• Modesty in our own hearts and our intent in it is so important. Be mindful and wise. 
• The heart of modesty is what you make available. 
• Someone who is provocative is choosing to arouse sexual desire and that’s different than being sexy or beautiful. 
• Someone who is promiscuous is someone who has many sexual partners. We cannot automatically assume someone who is attractive is automatically promiscuous. 
• We use these words like provocative, promiscuous, and sexy interchangeably when they’re not. 
• You are allowed to take up space and be beautiful. 

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• We all have our own standards because we all have our own walks with the Lord. 
• Context is SO important. 
• Always be mindful of the end user. Why are people following you? 
• Be mindful. 
• We never know where someone is at with their walk with Christ. 

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• Married: Check with your husband. His comfort level will inform you well. 
• Single: What you use as bait to get him will be what you use to keep him. 
• Be beautiful, put on something you feel GREAT in and comfortable and confident. 
• What is your intention behind what you’re wearing? 
• You have nothing to prove to him. 

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