• Jason shares his own experience when it came to him falling short on being someone who plans dates in advance.
• Gareth shares that if you’re REALLY into the person… be blunt with it in a tasteful way! Honesty goes a long way.
• Most guys can take a bit of direction. Read the room and BE HONEST.
• Feel free to make suggestions and present it in a fun and feminine way.

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• Dating more than one person at a time is OKAY as long as you do it with honor and with clear communication.
• Understand what stage you're in. If you’re in the early stages of dating, then it’s okay to be open to other options. 
• Dating multiple people at once can actually lift all the pressure on dating and make you feel free to get to know multiple people and help you get to know them without so much pressure.
• Remember to always be honest with the person you’re dating and treat the situation with honor.

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• At some point I think you have to make the decision “ Do you wanna be a man that leads like a man or do you wanna be a man that leads like a boy?”
• No one should be left in the position of ambiguity or “friendationship”.
• Work up the courage, ask her clarifying questions if it’s ambiguous what message she is sending you.

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“Clarity is not about being cool, it’s about being clear and clear is sexy.”

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“ Do you wanna be a man that leads like a man or do you wanna be a man that leads like a boy?” -JJ Tomlin

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• In reality, dating is dating, and there’s a degree of vulnerability that involves forgiveness in that space.
• Vulnerability is a really important part of dating as you’re opening yourself up to another person, however make sure to not get TOO far ahead of yourself.

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• When a woman has an active spiritual community, Jason discusses that that reflects that they are seeking growth.
• JJ looks for a woman with character who is committed and submitted to God.
• Gareth is a big communicator, and he talks about how he looks for someone who dives deep in understanding and is investing time with communication.

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• Since COVID, community hasn’t been the easiest to find in recent years, so this is a great space to do that.
• Community is really an important aspect of life and DATING and it’s important for men to find a space to talk with other men.
• Every guy is plugged in, every guy is being known, we build relationships first and share experiences and learnings.
• The space is a place for men to practice vulnerability and really lean on other Christian men to support them on their singleness and dating journey.
• On the practical end, the men’s community is a great space to get a lot of tips on dating and pick up great date ideas.

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• “Are you gonna pastor her or Will God be pastoring you together?” - JJ Tomlin
• “Allow God to write your story and narrative throughout the process.” - Gareth Pon
• “True curiosity leads to vulnerability.” - Jason Raine