Nika and Emeka join Kait and JJ as they talk through the truth of your wedding night, how to expect the unexpected and let the Holy Spirit guide you.
Let’s start by setting the stage. What were your expectations about your sex on your wedding night?
What actually happened on your wedding night? Was it mind blowing, crazy, hot sex?
Let’s talk about the reality of ANXIETY and FEAR on your wedding night… and afterwards in sex.
Let’s talk about the PTSD that can come up for someone who have a past of abuse. Because of various narratives in the church-Women often feel they have to sit through sexual experiences that they are NOT ready for and don’t want to be in… BUT because in some church cultures there is a stigma in the church in ways that a woman should just “please their husband” they feel like they NEED to have sex with their husbands.
What would you say to people who may be feeling nervous about how long it may take to enjoy sex and connection with their spouse? Or maybe it’s genuinely painful, or past trauma coming up.
What would you tell yourself NOW about sex if you could go back in time BEFORE you got married?
It’s a journey. You’re going to be different over time.
You have to give you and your partner to let sanctification to do it’s thing.
You have to continue to go back to the source.
If we focused more on learning how to laugh in the bedroom instead of being sexy then it would be more fun.
Nika and Emeka met in NYC, where she worked as a luxury fashion merchandiser and he owned and managed Michelin level restaurants. They moved to The Philippines shortly after getting married to work with and empower women and men who had been rescued from sex slavery. After the birth of their daughter, they launched a family social media brand where they tell authentic, relatable, and inspiring stories about marriage and parenthood while sharing what they love with their audience.
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