• Nika had a lot of abuse in her past that made her feel very scared, skiddish and sceptical of uncondtional, healthy love. 
• Emeka set a boundary for them, to make Nika feel safe, that they would not be alone together. There would always be someone else there. 
• After Nika’s first major PTSD moment, Emeka told Nika that if for the rest of their life all they could do was hold hands, then he would choose her over and over again. That set the tone for Nika’s expectations going into the honeymoon because if even being touched on the ankle could trigger all of that for her she was so fearful of what she was bringing into the honeymoon space. 
• Emeka had a moment with the Lord where he had to choose life or death with the Lord. 
• Going into the wedding night Emeka was expecting the unexpected, but was really just waiting on the next instruction from the Lord. 
• Emeka didn’t expect to have sex on the wedding night. He thought maybe they would take a bath together. 

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• At the end of the wedding Nika tried to pick a fight with Emeka because she wanted to prolong the honeymoon situation as long as she could. 
• Nika was so nervous, not feeling sexy but had a whole outfit planned and then walked out to Emeka sitting there so calm. 
• They had a picnic on the bed because Nika said she was hungry. 
• Nika got under the covers on the far side of the bed and Emeka said, let’s just talk. 
• Over hours they inched near each other and the Lord had healed so much in Nika that she really did want to try to be fully intimate with Emeka and the whole time Emeka never pressured her but was a complete gentlemen. 
• It was so awkward, and physically hurt Nika. She felt so so safe though.
• Nakedness is not the same as vulnerability. - Nika 
• After the amazingness of the wedding and all the people Emeka really just wanted to have an awesome conversation with his best friend. 

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