You dream of loving someone else deeply and being loved for who you are, but your head is spinning with questions that just aren’t getting answered at church:
How can I confidently put myself out there if I don’t have much dating experience? How do I conquer my fears of rejection? What happens if you don’t feel a spark on the first date? Do I really have to use creepy dating apps? Will I be swiping left forever?
And perhaps the biggest question of them all…
Where are all the quality Christian singles?! Like seriously, what gives?
All of this frustration is enough to make you want to quit dating altogether. You’ve thought about it a million times already.
But you know giving up won’t help you find what you really desire…
You’re ready to try something different.
Grow your dating confidence and put yourself out there even if you have little (or no) prior dating experience!
Cultivate vulnerability and develop Godly friendship with a community of men who understand you!
Take purposeful action in your dating life instead of waiting around and continuing to complain about your singleness!
Try a fun, low-pressure way to meet and date without the weird competition and hookup vibes of today’s dating apps!
Put yourself out there to practice owning what makes you awesome and overcome your fear of rejection!
Connect with high quality Christian women from all over the world who are just as excited to date as you are!
If you’re a Christian guy who’s ready to take a bold leap into love, this digital dating program might be the answer to your prayers!
Record a video to meet quality Christian gals who are actually looking for dates. ;)
Build friendships with other Godly guys, talk through the tough stuff, and share your wins!
Exclusive access to upcoming conferences, virtual summits, merch drops, and more!
Even more help from Kait and thoughtful perspectives from other members!
Sign up for a FREE meeting with our in-house video coach. During this low-pressure meeting, our coach will help you record a video on the spot to introduce yourself to the ladies of DTH! (Don’t worry! It’s easy and we’ll give you instructions to help you know what to say!)
If you’re feeling confident, you can record a video on your own and send it right to our team instead of recording with our video coach.
Fill out an easy application form to ensure your video is approved to launch on Drop the Hanky.
Once your video is reviewed and approved to go live, our awesome Christian gals who see and love your video can “drop the hanky” and kick things off by sending you a DM on Instagram. Flirt, have fun, practice good communication, and see where things lead!
Enjoy access to our private Men’s Community Group that meets twice a month on Zoom!
I hear you, friend! I totally understand that it can feel vulnerable and risky to put your heart on the line in dating.
That’s why the Drop The Hanky program is about so much MORE than sharing a video with Christian gals, hoping to find your match.
DTH is designed to help you form friendships with other guys and develop vulnerability so you can approach women in healthy ways, open yourself up, and maybe even go on some dates.
Getting a DM from a great Christian gal is just the cherry on top!
You’ll have some great chats with other singles and learn how to be more confident in who you are. You’ll develop a better understanding of the things you are and aren’t looking for in a dating partner. You’ll gain a ton of insight from our in-house dating expert Kait Warman and join a community of other epic Christian men in the same shoes as you. And you might just find an incredible match you never expected!
I can’t predict the future for you but I know that if you jump in with a heart of adventure, you’ll have a great time!
"Dropping the hanky” is actually an old Victorian phrase used to describe when women would drop their hanky at an event (like a dance) to catch the eye of a young, eligible gentleman. If a gentleman picked up her hanky, a connection could be made.
While it might not be the Victorian Era anymore, girls can still make it known to a guy that they like him! “Dropping the hanky” means a girl gives a guy she likes a green light by sending the first message to spark curiosity, to open the door and see what he does with it. The best part? The guys who are participating in this program know that women will be reaching out to them, so it's already less awkward. ;)
Drop The Hanky is the perfect fit for men and women who are serious about dating AND open to long-distance and varying ages! While we can’t guarantee you’ll meet someone close to your location or in your ideal age group, we CAN promise that we’ve got some pretty rad people that you might hit it off with!
We welcome members from 21-40 years old.
We do not know our members personally. Heart of Dating assumes no responsibility for the connections formed through this service. By joining this program you hereby assume responsibility for your own experience with the men featured or the single women reaching out in this service. You also hereby agree that you understand Heart of Dating does not personally know the single men or women being featured or reaching out.
FOR WOMEN: By reaching out to the men you see through this platform you agree that you are doing so on your own accord and any outcome should not be held responsible to Heart of Dating. That being said, should you have any issues, please do let us know directly. You must be 18 years of age or older to sign up.
FOR MEN: By submitting your video, you agree to have your video, image, and likeness featured on our platform. You also hereby agree to the sharing of your contact information set forth as your preferred method of communication (i.e. Instagram). If at any point in time you want to remove your video, please let our team know and we will be happy to do so.
We hear your heart, friend! This is part of the process and it could happen to anyone. Don't take it personally. While we don’t know the reason someone may not respond or reach out to you, none of them dictate your worth or value.
Feel free to reach out to our team if you don’t hear from any girls after your video goes live. We would be happy to give you personal feedback on your video to maximize your experience… and we’d even be happy to help you re-record your video!
Applying for and joining Drop The Hanky is 100% FREE for great Christian guys! All you have to do is record a friendly introduction video that we’ll host on our site.
Don’t worry, friend! It’s easier than you think! You’ll set up a low-pressure call with our video coach and they’ll help you through the whole thing. You’ll record a video on the spot. If you’d rather record the video on your own, we’ll give you some great pointers for what to include!
No. Our team reviews each submission to make sure that everyone joining the program is a good match for it! We’ll let you know if you’re accepted or not.
We ask all men to agree to keep their video active on the platform for 30 days after it goes live so that you can truly get the most out of the program and give it a real shot!
If you meet your match or decide you want to take a break from DTH at any point after the initial 30 days of it being live, please reach out to us directly at firstname.lastname@example.org and we’ll remove your video!
If finding a faith-filled partner is the desire of your heart we’d love to help you fall in love with yourself first, understand the practical side of dating and relationships, and continue your search for an awesome partner in a low-pressure, FUN way!
Hundreds of quality Christian singles have trusted Drop The Hanky to help them get out of their comfort zones, date safely, and have a great time!
Will you be our next success story?