Drop the Hanky

by Heart of Dating

Grow in confidence, revamp your dating life, and meet Christian singles!

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Let’s face it.

Dating as a Christian can feel so dang complicated.

You dream of loving someone else deeply and being loved for who you are, but your head is spinning with questions that just aren’t getting answered at church:

How can I confidently put myself out there if I don’t have much dating experience? Should the guy or girl make the first move? What happens if you don’t feel a spark on the first date? Do I really have to use creepy dating apps? Will I be swiping left forever?

And perhaps the biggest question of them all…

Where are all the quality Christian singles?! Like seriously, what gives?

All of this frustration is enough to make you want to quit dating altogether. You’ve thought about it a million times already.

But you know giving up won’t help you find what you really desire…

You’re ready to try something different.

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Drop The Hanky is a new way to date with joy and integrity!

I created it to help you…

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Understand the practical side of dating and grow in confidence even if you have little (or no) prior dating experience!

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Find the support you need to improve your mental health and discover a community of people who understand you!

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Take purposeful action in your dating life instead of waiting around and continuing to complain about your singleness!

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Try a fun, low-pressure way to meet and date without the icky competition and hookup vibes of today’s dating apps!

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Learn how to put yourself out there to practice owning what makes you awesome and overcome your fear of rejection!

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Connect with high quality Christian men from all over the world who are just as excited to date as you are!

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Cultivate vulnerability and develop Godly friendship with a community of other singles who understand the struggle!

If you’re a Christian gal who’s ready to take a bold leap into love, this digital dating program might be the answer to your prayers!


Hey y’all, I’m Kait!

I  know firsthand that dating as a Christian can be rough. #thestruggleisreal

I’ve had my fair share of heartbreaks. Abandonment, betrayal, self-hatred, abuse, sexual assault, shame… You name it, I’ve probably walked through it. I’ve dated a lot and I’ve seen a lot.

The pain I experienced tempted me to throw in the towel with dating and wait until God brought my husband to my doorstep. But instead, I decided to use it as a catalyst to meet a deep need in the faith community and help other Christian singles date with JOY.

I started the Heart of Dating Podcast to introduce smart, kind, and hilarious mentors to hopeful daters all over the world. As our audience grew, I teamed up with the most amazing speakers to host events to help men and women find encouragement and breakthrough in their lives and relationships.

When our podcast subscribers and event-goers kept asking us how to actually date and where to find quality Christian singles so they could practice their new-found confidence, I knew I had to create a solution. And voilà! Drop The Hanky was born!

If you’re looking for a pressure-free, faith-based dating experience as an alternative to all the sketchy dating apps out there, we’d love to welcome you into our community!

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Real Results from Real Daters

"I joined Drop the Hanky right when the pandemic took off. I didn’t have a lot of success, but I decided to make it fun and really put myself out there anyways. I saw Justin’s video and reached out. He was so intentional and everything felt so natural. After only 2 weeks, he flew to Mexico to meet me, and to be my date at a friend’s wedding. He makes me feel so special, loved, and cared for. Drop the Hanky has been a great platform to see that there are men out there who really love God and want to honor Him in dating and the pursuit of marriage. Thanks so much for this wonderful program!”


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Drop The Hanky is the digital dating program you’ve been waiting for!

Here’s what you’ll get!

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The BEST Dating Education & Resources

Expert guidance from Kait for the practical side of dating, found inside our members-only platform!

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Exciting Monthly Men Drops

New video submissions from quality Christian guys who are actually looking for dates. ;) Flirt, have fun, and see where things lead!

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First Dibs on Future Events

Exclusive access to upcoming conferences, virtual summits, speed dating nights, Zooms with Kait, merch drops, and more!

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Invite to Our Dynamic Community

Even more dating and mental health support from Kait and other expert leaders who have been where you are!

How It Works for the Gals

Drop the Hanky is an exclusive dating program! Here’s how it works:


Submit an application for our Drop the Hanky Program.


Our Team will review your application carefully. Please be patient, acceptances typically go out once a week.


If you’re accepted and you want to move forward, you’ll choose a payment plan that works best for you!


You in? Sweet! You’ll immediately get access to our dating education platform to learn how to talk to guys, how to grow in self confidence, how to improve your mental health, and so much more!


We’ll drop videos from new single guys at the beginning of each month so you can browse submissions and “drop the hanky” on social media.

Sound Good?

Apply NOW!

Meet Some Of Our Dudes

Watch an example video from some of our guys!

"This is such an awesome platform! The videos make a HUGE difference. I love it. It is just encouraging to see so many awesome men of God!"


"Drop the Hanky has helped me have some meaningful conversations with a few guys, put myself out there, grow and rely on Christ, and remind myself that I am worthy and have a lot of great qualities, even in the midst of potential rejection."


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It’s time to bring FUN and CLARITY into Christian dating!

Dating as a Christian doesn’t have to be so scary, confusing, or stressful. Sliding into someone’s DMs doesn’t mean you have to get married! You have full permission to take the pressure OFF and enjoy!

If you’re willing to go all in on the adventure of sharing your heart with others who hold the same values as you do, there’s no telling what incredible things you’ll find on the other side!

It might just be your person!

You CAN approach dating with an attitude of abundance and joy.

You CAN learn to be fully yourself and grow in your dating confidence.

You CAN take the next step forward with courage and vulnerability.

You’re smart, beautiful, and so WORTHY. Feeling brave?

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Let's go ladies

Payment Details & Subscription Options



Join drop the hanky & pay monthly!

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Renewed monthly.
Cancel anytime.

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Pay for a year access to content & save some cash!

Renewed after one year.

ApplY to Join NOW!

Applying is totally FREE. You’ll pay later if you’re accepted AND you decide you want to join us!

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Kait, this sounds awesome…

but I’m worried I won’t make a connection with anyone!

I hear you, friend! I totally understand that it can feel vulnerable and risky to put your heart on the line in dating.

That’s why the Drop The Hanky program is about so much MORE than just interacting with guys, hoping to find your match.

DTH is designed to help you LEARN the practical dating stuff your mama, pastor, or BFFs haven’t been able to teach you so you can feel confident in approaching men, open yourself up, and maybe even go on some dates.

The monthly video drops from our great Christian guys are just the cherry on top!

You’ll have some great chats with other singles and learn how to be more confident in who you are. You’ll develop a better understanding of the things you are and aren’t looking for in a dating partner. You’ll gain a ton of insight from experts like Kait Warman and join a community who will feel like your ultimate cheerleaders. And you might just find an incredible match you never expected!

I can’t predict the future for you but I know that if you jump in with a heart of adventure, you’ll have a great time!

The Lord has shown me that he can bring healing from brokenness. This is what I am experiencing as I have connected with one of the guys. No we don’t enter as a blank slate, but the Lord is helping me see that my past does not dictate the future. He is hope, restoration and reconciliation. No matter where this relationship leads… the Lord is calling me to embrace what’s in front of me. That it is good, that it is different and he truly makes things new. THIS WAS THE BEST MONEY I HAVE EVER SPENT!


Frequently Asked Questions

What does it mean to “Drop The Hanky?”
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"Dropping the hanky” is actually an old Victorian phrase used to describe when women would drop their hanky at an event (like a dance) to catch the eye of a young, eligible gentleman. If a gentleman picked up her hanky, a connection could be made.

While it might not be the Victorian Era anymore, girls can still make it known to a guy that they like him! “Dropping the hanky” means a girl gives a guy she likes a green light by sending the first message to spark curiosity, to open the door and see what he does with it. The best part? The guys who are participating in this program know that women will be reaching out to them, so it's already less awkward. ;)

Will it be possible for me to find a match in my area?
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Drop The Hanky is the perfect fit for men and women who are serious about dating AND open to long-distance and varying ages! While we can’t guarantee you’ll meet someone close to your location or in your ideal age group, we CAN promise that we’ve got some pretty rad people that you might hit it off with!

What are the age ranges of singles in the membership?
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We focus on members from 21-40 years old. You’re so welcome to join if you’re a bit older to gain insight from the program, but we can’t guarantee we’ll have single men over the age of 40.

Do you vet or screen new members?
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We do not know our members personally. Heart of Dating assumes no responsibility for the connections formed through this service. By joining this program you hereby assume responsibility for your own experience with the men featured or the single women reaching out in this service. You also hereby agree that you understand Heart of Dating does not personally know the single men or women being featured or reaching out.

FOR WOMEN: By reaching out to the men you see through this platform you agree that you are doing so on your own accord and any outcome should not be held responsible to Heart of Dating. That being said, should you have any issues, please do let us know directly. You must be 18 years of age or older to sign up.

FOR MEN: By submitting your video, you agree to have your video, image, and likeness featured on our platform. You also hereby agree to the sharing of your contact information set forth as your preferred method of communication (i.e. Instagram). If at any point in time you want to remove your video, please let our team know and we will be happy to do so.

What if I like someone’s video and reach out but they don’t respond?
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We hear your heart, friend! This is part of the process and it could happen to anyone. Don't take it personally. While we don’t know the reason someone may not respond or reach out to you, none of them dictate your worth or value.

We upload new guys each month so don't give up! Some guys may not be a good fit for you, but that doesn't mean there won't be someone else!

Do I have to nominate a guy as part of my application?
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Yes! We require all applicants to nominate 2 guys for Drop The Hanky to help us get the word out and invite even more rad men into the program. This doesn’t mean the guys have to say yes. We’ll just shoot  them a message on Instagram to ask if they’re interested in joining.

Pro tip: Can’t think of anyone? Ask your friends on Facebook if they know of a great guy who would like to be nominated! Get their permission first. Consent is sexy. ;) 

Once I join, can I cancel my subscription and get a refund?
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You can cancel your subscription at any time and you won’t be charged for your next billing cycle, but you will not receive a refund for the portion of the subscription you have signed up for. Subscriptions are not transferable to other people. If you aren’t satisfied with Drop The Hanky at first, we encourage you to stick with it because we will continue to add new eligible members and brand new dynamic content to the program over time.

What if I have a question about my membership?
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If you have any specific questions or issues, please reach out to us directly at

You don’t have to keep your dating life on pause.

It’s time to press PLAY!

If finding a faith-filled partner is the desire of your heart we’d love to help you fall in love with yourself first, discover wholeness and healing, understand the practical side of dating and relationships, and continue your search for an awesome partner in a low-pressure, FUN way!

Hundreds of quality Christian singles have trusted Drop The Hanky to help them get out of their comfort zones, date safely, and have a great time!

Will you be our next success story?


Let’s go ladies